I can do as Shelli has said above although no codes on reports!
I don't think our son is autistic, even though our middle one has been diagnosed with autism. But we do feel that something is wrong. He was diagnosed with ADHD at 7, then a year later they changed their minds. Schools says he is perfectly normal yet friends say the opposite. It seems schools only take notice if the child is disruptive.
Personally we are thinking along the lines of social communication disorder. This has been suggested by a few professionals but never backed up by teachers. A speech therapy report in 2008 said he had limited use of words and understanding and the person who assessed him said he came across as very immature and could not interact as our others did. But school said he mixed well with others (He doesn't) and was in top set English so it was left.
No hope of a special school. Our middle one was in one until he reached the age of 6 but was moved to mainstream because he was progressing. It went downhill from then
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Many teachers have no idea if a child is learning disabled or what it entails. I am not criticising teachers as I wouldn't expect them to know everything regaarding LDs. Some however decide that the experts are wrong and that there is nothing wrong with the child that a bit of discipline wouldn't cure and practice in whatever they have a problem doing. My friend has a child who is brilliant far ahead of his class and some of his teachers, however he cannot write and his doctor has said that it is probable that he will never learn to write. He can use the computer but the physical act of writing is beyond him. One of his teachers insists he just needs practice and gives him writing assignments for homework.
You have done the right thing. I just feel guilty we didn't do it before. Although had we done so he would not now be completely bilingual.
Another friend has a bilingual son who is on the autistic spectrum and in Special Ed classes and they have told her he cannot learn Spanish as he wouldn't be able to . He soon learnt French. He is teaching himself.
I had a lot of issues in school, I didn't mix well, was bullied and was always late, I was awful at PE, my work was scruffy and I usually forgot to do homework. As it turns out I'm dyspraxic and that explains every thing in my life which is slightly different to that of people who do not have specific learning difficulties. I don't think your son sounds dyspraxic to me but I echo bluenosewidow on it never being too late to get him assessed. This is not just to aid you in teaching him at home but if he decides to go to college/university then he will get a lot more help with any educational needs he has. The best thing to come out of it for me was gaining funding for a specialist tutor who absolutely revolutionised the way I learn, especially when it comes to exams and my exam grades improved by around 20%.
Perhaps CAMHs will have some idea, my sister has just been re-referred, we're trying to get them to take into account just how much pathological defiance disorder describes all the issues she has, her education welfare officer was very rude to my mum about that today but that's another story.
Quote: Originally posted by nynysuts on 10/9/2012
I had a lot of issues in school, I didn't mix well, was bullied and was always late, I was awful at PE, my work was scruffy and I usually forgot to do homework. As it turns out I'm dyspraxic and that explains every thing in my life which is slightly different to that of people who do not have specific learning difficulties. I don't think your son sounds dyspraxic to me but I echo bluenosewidow on it never being too late to get him assessed. This is not just to aid you in teaching him at home but if he decides to go to college/university then he will get a lot more help with any educational needs he has. The best thing to come out of it for me was gaining funding for a specialist tutor who absolutely revolutionised the way I learn, especially when it comes to exams and my exam grades improved by around 20%.
Perhaps CAMHs will have some idea, my sister has just been re-referred, we're trying to get them to take into account just how much pathological demand avoidance disorder describes all the issues she has, her education welfare officer was very rude to my mum about that today but that's another story.
Although our Grandson was tested a few years ago it was a long wait between the Dr's letter to actually getting him an appointment at the Centre for Handicapped kids. So don't give up they will get around to him.
Even though he is no longer in school our lad is still classed as handicapped and is entitled to all the help available, so if he goes back to school at any time he can get help.
Some people get hung up on words and object to him being called handicapped, our feeling is it is only a word and if it means he gets help then so be it. He is well aware that he is intelligent and has a couple of problems, that he can overcome if never fully lose.
This is true. One of the (unhelpful) SENCOs asked us what difference if our son was diagnosed. She said we would be labelling him for life. But we don't see it that way. We wouldn't be going round shouting here is my son he has X, but it might be that it could help others understand why he may or may not behave in certain ways or do certain things.
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I agree. It isn't as if he will wear a label around his neck. If it helps just a bit that is a bit more help than he was getting before. Our late Son in law was probably dyslexic and had no help or diagnosis at all. They expelled him from a few schools without even bothering to test him. He grew up an illiterate nasty tempered alcoholic young man, who may well have been helped if he had been diagnosed.
Anyway after the Paralympics everyone has seen how kids given the chance can overcome all difficulties.