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Quote: Originally posted by Jax365 on 07/6/2018

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I'm just having a whinge....

Both my parents have dementia, my old dad (88yo) has mild to moderate, my Mum has vascular dementia (87yo) following a bad stroke and is getting worse day by day.

It's so sad to see them get so distressed over even the smallest of things. Just lately my mum has been agitated about her bank account, and is convinced that someone is stealing money from her... a delusional week caused by a change in meds, which has now been remedied, hopefully.

I am the main carer for them both, although my Sis who works full time also helps out when she can. We have carers who go in each morning, and a domestic cleaner worth her weight in gold once a week. Both carers and domestic were fought for long and hard to get them, my parents refuse to pay for anything if they think they don't need it, and only agreed to pay for care in the morning for 5 days and cleaning for 2 hours after over a year of pleading with them.. They are terrified someone will drag them away in chains and put them in a home.

I wish they would drag me off in chains and put me in a home, for a rest! We've suggested respite care, they won't have that. They would have to pay for it!

Just lately I feel totally overwhelmed, there hasn't been a day gone by without some sort of drama. I would love a holiday right now, but I daren't leave them for very long.

We have lots of help but ultimately, most of the dramas fall on me to solve.
I'm not asking for help or advice... I'm just so very very tired. Even if I could go on holiday in my little caravan, I'm not sure I could summon up the energy to go!

Has anyone else had two parents to look after at the same time in this state? I've met a lot of people who have only have one parent to look after like this. It's double trouble.

I just keep calm and carry on the best way I can.

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Quote: Originally posted by Jax365 on 24/7/2018

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Thanks for the ideas, Romany girl and HH.. Both my parents were assessed for mobility equipment but their needs have changed now, so perhaps it's time for an upgraded assessment of their needs. I will chase that suggestion up.

Aussie Mick, I don't think we have anything like that in the UK... someone correct me if I'm wrong! :)

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Quote: Originally posted by franbee on 27/7/2018

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So did they give up the AA jax?

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Quote: Originally posted by Hedgehugger on 11/8/2018

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I do hope this has removed the fear of the unknown that was obviously preying on their minds, and that they will agree to further visits. It's certainly a step in the right direction and will give you and your sister some hope.

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