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Quote: Originally posted by Jusy on 17/10/2012

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Bob, if i don't sort the headstone, i feel i have let him down.

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Quote: Originally posted by Jusy on 17/10/2012

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It was a cremation funeral Magnolia. Only takes about 6 - 10 weeks for the headstone to made.

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Quote: Originally posted by bobsbabes on 18/10/2012

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Magnolia is so spot I agree with everything she has said

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Ditto,

Thats our bodies releasing what is tensed up inside and it is needed. If you do not cry invariably it can come out at a later date and can be bad. My mum collapsed in bed, head on the floor, bottom half way up the bed & legs on the bed. Was there on her own like that for nigh 3 hours till found.  Shock comes out of you in different ways . But crying helps it to start the healing process of without the later hangups.Slowly, gently.

My sis still cries every anniversary or special days they had and Don died in  1997. It is not natural to just switch everything off and go on, not normal and it would be bad for you.

Take everyday as it comes, and people that deal with this as job ie, stone masons who do this have dealt with it before. it is not new to them. They do understand .

Love & strength to you Judy.

Chrissie

Jusy

I don't know you but my heart goes out to you.  I am so so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband.  It sounds as though you have some lovely friends and great support from the kind people on here.  There's nothing anyone can say to make it better for you, but sometimes it helps a little knowing that people are thinking of you, praying for you and sending virtual hugs for you.

Be gentle with yourself, as others on here have said, don't worry about crying, it can be a release and is part of the grieving process. Take one day at a time and do what you want to do when you want to do it.  Don't feel you "should" be doing things - we are all individuals and deal with things in our own way and at our own pace. You know what is right for you. Try and take some time each day for you.

Take care Jusy

love Julie xx

We are so sorry to hear your sad news Jusy.

Thinking of you.

Sharon x