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22/6/2015 at 4:43pm
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It is a matter of trust and faith, though, alpiner, even if they do 'get up to something' they are informed and armed with the right knowledge and aware that they responsible for that, mindful of the consequences that are their responsibility, and for keeping themselves safe.
Just as we were, didn't mean we were saints, but we were trusted and expected to be responsible for our own actions, so we acted accordingly.
At 18 this surely should be a given for most young people. After all they are young adults.
SA2009, yes, I do agree about the pub crawls and fights outside nightclubs, after all it is not necessarily in the control of the young person if someone starts on them, and that would cause me far more worry than leaving a bunch of young people on their own in my home or someone else's.
Thankfully, my lot are not into that nightclub and bar type drink-yourself-stupid scenario.
That said, we are allowing our almost 17 year old to go to the Reading Festival with a group of friends in August this year, I totally trust him and his mates to behave but my worries will always be other people, I do trust and hope he has the sense to steer clear of trouble, and do think he will but again you have to have faith in them, they have to do these things some time, and you cannot mollycoddle them, I am sure he will have a fantastic time, whilst his poor old mother adds to her grey hair collection!
I will be laying it on the line to him before he goes to keep away from trouble, drugs and drinking too much alcohol, unlikely he will get served anyway.
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24/6/2015 at 11:46pm
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Funny you should ask, my eldest went to India several years ago! Also when I was expecting her 27 years ago, her father/ my then boyfriend/now husband went to Sri Lanka for 6 weeks.
What a wonderful experience for them both!
Don't get what the grandparent said about 'shire' in the name, hardly the same thing, really?
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25/6/2015 at 1:13pm
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Jeff, your niece is very lucky having an uncle who gives such sound advice!
It sounds like you have a great relationship with her.
My four girls were given pretty much the same advice, to take care and be sensible, and be aware of the consequences of their actions.
They also knew that they could come to me with anything, and that they would be listened to and given an honest opinion.
None of my girls have kids yet, but if they do I expect they will be the same with their children.
That said, although my son obviously doesn't have the issue of pregnancy for himself to worry about, the advice given to them stands for him too, to be responsible as a young man, respect girls and expect them to respect him too.
I think informing and teaching responsibility and respect at a young age really does pay dividends when young people start to go out into the world and find their independence.
Above all, trust makes a huge amount of difference, I find it quite sad that some parents have such low opinions and expectations of their youngsters and will not give them a chance to prove that they can be trusted.
That has to happen at some point, we as parents naturally worry, but you can't wrap them in cotton wool, just equip them to deal with life's challenges, and to make the very most of its joys.
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