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Subject Topic: Tired of camping with OH - help?
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08/5/2009 at 7:30am
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Quote: Originally posted by Valk_scot on 08/5/2009

I do have one other suggestion though. Want me to take him camping for a weekend, as in Boot Camp for Novice Campers?


 

Excellent idea - he is all yours for a weekend! I shall expect him returned able and willing to put the tent up solo and cook a 3 course meal on a two ring burner!



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get him a model train set then he will be at home doing that and you can take one of your friends camping instead ! He will never like camping by the sound of it!


08/5/2009 at 8:17am
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Some just dont get it no matter how  hard  you try.  Sounds like its just not him!  Either suffer in silence (impossible!) or leave him at home and agree you have different interests.  Its not the end of the world and works for many x

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08/5/2009 at 8:23am
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Is he like that at home ?

Yes - You have a bigger problem on your hands than camping !

No - He doesn't want to camp with you, go yourself.



08/5/2009 at 9:58am
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Quote: Originally posted by armycampers on 08/5/2009
tin your post always make me laugh all tho they (how can i put this) might not be very helpfull lol

larry


Oh, I can do helpful armycampers!!!!
ClareL, your partner is acting like a child. Most men do, and will get away with it as long we let them. It all harks back to the moment his mother tore him from her breast. Deep down he earns to be nestled back against her teat, suckling the milk of maternal love. Now obviously he can no longer do this. Your partner does sound weird, but not psycho! But his childish behaviour around all camping is basically a tantrum. He doesn't really want to do what you want him to do so he acts like a child in protest, (he doesn't want to give up the breast so he throws his toys out of the pram.)
Understanding where this behaviour stems from enables you to deal with it in the most effective way.
If he insists on going down the childlike route then you need to look at what your role is. Currently he has manipulated you into the role of mother. Chastising him for bad behavour, shouting, getting angry, all the usual traps our kids usually put us in, or in other words, to feed the metaphor, you have said "No more booby milk!!"
So how do we stop this vicious cycle?
Well, What you need to do is reverse the roles. Only a woman can do this because you are in posession of the most powerful weapon in the arsenal. A weapon your partner is too afraid to use...tears.
ClareL, next time he refuses to do as you tell him at camping...and pick your time carefully, cry. The tears will put you into the role of baby, not just the toddler child that your partner is being, but the baby.
Doing this will effectively strip the breasts from you and place them, bare with me I'm going deep into metaphor here, most firmly on your partner's chest. You are a tiny helpless baby, crying, demanding milk, needing attention, more immediate attention than any child would ever need, and you partner is cast into the role of mother, placing you at his teat, to calm your tears away.
Bingo, roles are reversed, you are in charge getting your own way beacause your partner will now know that if he misbehaves too much you will strip him of his more comfortable role of child and I suspect he doesn't want that. So he will now do as you tell him, acting like the true camper he should be.
Although if that fails, seriously, shoot him. I would.
Claud


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Wow.


08/5/2009 at 11:07am
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08/5/2009 at 11:17am
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Actually, all things considered, I would stick to slapping him with a newspaper meself.....


08/5/2009 at 11:21am
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Yes, thinking about it, that would be easier!!!!!
Not to mention more fun!
Claud


08/5/2009 at 11:27am
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Quote: Originally posted by tin pockets on 08/5/2009
ClareL, your partner is acting like a child. Most men do, and will get away with it as long we let them.
Oi ! I must protest at this !!! We only occasionally act as children, about as often as females are totally irrational.


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08/5/2009 at 11:28am
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Quote: Originally posted by arthurdent on 08/5/2009
Quote: Originally posted by tin pockets on 08/5/2009
ClareL, your partner is acting like a child. Most men do, and will get away with it as long we let them.
Oi ! I must protest at this !!! We only occasionally act as children, about as often as females are totally irrational.

Touche!!


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My OH is a bit like this; he just doesn't have the practical gene!

Camping with friends has worked wonders with him; pack him off with some male friends who know what they're doing - he'll soon learn!

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I leave my partner at home most of the time it`s less stressful that way. You can either whip him into shape or just leave him behind, let him take care of himself at home see if he likes that..


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Find another OH! lol


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Just leave him at home i think him doing nothing is his way of telling you he does not want to go.


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Quote: Originally posted by Wizard007 on 08/5/2009
Find another OH! lol
You can have mine if you like, he's great for all the practical things to do with camping, and we parted last week.

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