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Well, my ex husband has done it again,

 he has just offered/tempted/taunted my son (12yrs) to a week in turkey in a villa with pool, at the same time i have booked to go to devon in the tent.......... of course my son has said he wants to go with him.   I am devasted........just felt i had to share my bad news with someone/anyone cos i am absolutely hopping mad at the ar****le ( ex , not son )

Oh honey, That is rubbish.  Why could he not take him the week after - at least your son would get 2 great holidays then.  If I was honestly given the choice I would choose camping (did Turkey all inclusive for 2 weeks last year)  I know you can't guarantee the weather here but I find airports and coaches so stressful.  Maybe you could move your holiday slightly.  I know you shouldn't HAVE to but at least your son gets the best of both worlds. AND it would prove to your ex that you are above his pettiness!  Good luck whatever you decide

Fee

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Quote: Originally posted by fee123 on 28/5/2009

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Oh honey, That is rubbish.  Why could he not take him the week after - at least your son would get 2 great holidays then.  If I was honestly given the choice I would choose camping (did Turkey all inclusive for 2 weeks last year)  I know you can't guarantee the weather here but I find airports and coaches so stressful.  Maybe you could move your holiday slightly.  I know you shouldn't HAVE to but at least your son gets the best of both worlds. AND it would prove to your ex that you are above his pettiness!  Good luck whatever you decide

Fee

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In agreement!!! rise above his pettiness

Also I would much rather stay in a tent than a turkey

He has done this kind of thing before, long story.......... i have given in so many times but do realise that if i said no to my son, it wouldnt be fair on him and i'd have him moping and whinging when we did go to devon. i told ex that i had booked hols but of course he denies any knowledge of it. he says he has paid for the tickets but i doubt it ......... long history of tempting the kids with big promises only to find the actual 'plan' is not quite so....... i will try to alter my hols but that might not be possible cos of work and booking during the summer holidays etc.   

I am just so disappointed .......... but who can blame a 12 yr old lad for wanting to go abroad ..........

Quote: Originally posted by caster on 28/5/2009

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When you arrange next years hols lie about the dates, then you can smile wryly when he smugly announces his plans for the same time as you

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Quote: Originally posted by caster on 28/5/2009

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When you arrange next years hols lie about the dates, then you can smile wryly when he smugly announces his plans for the same time as you

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Or organise a surprise holiday, don't tell your son about it until the last minute and tell your ex about it when you get back.  Though my guess is that if it was that simple you'd have done something like that already.

It's a tough one; I wish you all the best in whatever you decide to do.