If it has the towbar, I take it it has the 12n fitted (black plug) and you need the 12S (Grey plug) fitted.
You will need a split chargng relay, some grey 12S cable (about 2 metres should suffice), a fuse, some heavy duty cable to run th power from the battery to the split charging relay at the back of the car, a 12S cocket and a bracket to munt the socket on. I think the cheapest way of getting all this is in a kit form. It is easy to do, basically run a heavy duty wire from the battery (through a 30amp fuse) to the split charging relay. Then connect a permanent live and two switched lives to the socket and two earths. If you want to do a proper job you can connect the reverse light too.
You need a second socket(coloured grey) to go next to your existing socket. this socket is known as a 12s to go with your existing socket known as a 12n, so you will need the new socket & wiring & relay as described above. you will also need a double mouting plate to replace your existing single mounting plate so the 2 sockets are mounted next to each other.
Having said all that if you plug only the black plug on caravan into you existing black 12n socket on car that will be ok, the caravan lights/indicators/brake lights will work ok & you can tow the caravan.
On most caravans the extra grey plug/socket only powers fridge while you are driving & charges leisure battery.
If you can do without those, then you can tow caravan with just your existing 12n socket.
as stated above you have got what you need to tow a caravan (big box trailer with beds) ,We have towed caravans using only the Black 7 pin plug only since we started never found the need to run fridge whilst towing and Battery has a charger when hooked up to EHU .Just use a cool box for frozen food ( we freeze a carton of milk to act as a ice block )
If you do get a grey socket (12S) fitted be aware that in about 1998 or 1999 they changed the cable sizes and the pin allocations. If your van is newer than 1999 have it wired to the new standard. If its older have it wired to the old standard.
The 12s socket also carries power for the reversing light if fitted to your van. For fridge and battery charging I wire the 12s socket through a 12v smartcom relay which automatically switches power when the engine runs ( towsure sell these). It is advisable to run a hefty wire from the battery to the rear, fused at the battery end to supply power to the relay.
Better to get the complete kit if buying from towsure. This includes the wire, instructions and even a heavy duty scotchlock.
The split charging relays are a bit hit and miss with reliability. Mine doesn't shut off when the engine stops and continues to hold on until the battery drops down to about 11 volts. The split charging relay therefore is an easy way of wiring the 12S but not as reliable as tapping into the alternator wire. Unfortunately, with the electronics getting more and more complicated the split charging relay is becoming the only option with some vehicles.